The Hush Between Worlds - How to Be With Life’s Uncertainty When You’re Between Chapters?
Sometimes life pauses before the next thing begins. Not dramatically. Just quietly, like a door that has already closed, but the new one has not yet opened.
I have been in that state more than once. Not fully in the old, not yet inside the new. I have felt that quiet pull when a relationship was already over in my heart before the words arrived. When work started feeling too small, but I did not yet know what bigger would look like. When everything on the outside looked fine, something inside had already started moving.
One evening stays with me. The conversation was over, the decision spoken. I sat alone. The room looked the same: a half-full mug of tea, a blanket on the couch. But I had changed. I was no longer who I had been that morning, not yet who I would become. Just a woman on the threshold, heart open, body already knowing something the mind had not yet found words for.
The in-between is not emptiness
We are taught that uncertainty is a problem to solve. Quickly. With clarity, a plan, and action. But that quiet state before the next chapter is not emptiness. It is alive, moving, a place where something old is dissolving, and something new is beginning to form, even when it is not yet visible.
The urge to escape it is understandable. Uncertainty feels uncomfortable. But if you rush toward a solution before you have actually heard what the in-between is trying to tell you, you often make a decision on behalf of your old self, not the one you are becoming.
What you can do in this state
The first step is simple, even when it does not feel that way: Recognize that you are there. Don’t make a problem of it. Do not try to analyze it away. Just look honestly: this is where I am right now. Something is in between.
The second step is to allow for curiosity rather than urgency. Instead of asking "what should I do?", you can ask "what do I notice in this state?" or "what feels important right now, even if I do not know why?"
The third step is to find a space where you can be in this out loud. Not someone who solves it for you. Someone who helps you hear yourself in the uncertainty.
A small practice for the in-between
If you find yourself in this place today, you can try this: light a candle in the evening. Sit in its light for a moment. Ask yourself quietly: where am I in-between right now? What do I notice here?
Do not wait for a clear answer. Wait for whatever rises. Write it down if that helps, or simply let it be.
The in-between does not last forever. But it lasts longer than we would like, and it deserves to be met, not escaped.
If this resonates and you would like to work through your own in-between with someone, you can book a free intro call. No pressure, no sales pitch. Just space to see if working together feels right.
About the author
Jenna Lamberg is an LCAF-certified holistic life coach based in Espoo, Finland. She works with women who are functioning well on the outside but sense that something inside is shifting. She coaches in Finnish and English, online worldwide and in the Helsinki Metropolitan Area. Learn more about working with Jenna →
Last updated: 12 June 2026
