In-between chapters — when nothing has changed yet, but something is already moving
Being in between chapters describes a period when something in your life is shifting, not because of a crisis or a clear decision, but because what used to fit no longer does. It is a real, recognizable stage. Nothing needs to go wrong for you to be in one. The in-between is not a transition to hurry through. It is a place worth paying attention to.
Do you recognize this?
Your life looks fine on paper. Work, relationships, and everyday life — it’s all basically okay. But something inside you has started to move. It is not a crisis. It is not a clear problem to solve. It is more like a quiet pull toward something, or a drawing back from something you did not even notice before.
This state is hard to name. That is why many women say something like this at first: "I do not know if anything is really wrong. Maybe this is silly."
It is not silly. It is one of the most important moments life offers.
What being in-between means
Being in between does not mean you need to make dramatic changes. It means you have reached a point where the old way of being in the world no longer feels quite like your own. You do not yet know what is new. You are in between.
Psychology talks about transition periods: those times when moving from one chapter to another takes time, when you have already let go of something old, but the new is not yet clear. This state is uncomfortable because it does not offer an answer. It offers only a question.
Why do we want to escape this state so quickly?
We live in a culture that loves solutions. We want stories about turning points, realizations, and clear decisions. We want to hear what happened next. The in-between state feels like failure because it is not yet a story.
But every "next" requires time in between first — time, when you do not know, when the process is ongoing and not finished. If we rush past this phase, we often make decisions before we have actually heard what we need to hear.
What you can do in this state
The first step is to recognize that you are in between. Don’t make a problem of it. Do not rush toward a solution. Just look honestly: this is where I am right now.
The second step is to allow curiosity. Instead of asking "what should I do?", you can ask "what do I notice?" or "what feels important right now, even if I do not know why?"
The third step is to find someone you can be in this state without being loud. Not someone who solves it for you, but someone who helps you hear yourself in this uncertainty.
The in-between state does not last forever. But it lasts longer than we would like, and it asks something of us: permission to be there without yet knowing where we are going.
Cosmic Pyjamas coaching is especially for women who are in between.
If this feels familiar, you can book a free intro call.
About the author
Jenna Lamberg is an LCAF-certified holistic life coach based in Espoo, Finland. She works with women who are functioning well on the outside but sense that something inside is shifting. She coaches in Finnish and English, online worldwide and in the Helsinki Metropolitan Area. Learn more about working with Jenna →
Last updated: 10 May 2026
